• Kelsey Ahlborn

From New York to Alabama: My Thoughts On The New Abortion Laws

Hi all, I’m sorry this post is late. I really debated on whether I was going to share it because I’m not one to talk about my political views, but this has been really eating at me lately. There’s been a lot of talk about abortion recently. Whether it’s about the late term abortion law passed in New York, or the near all abortion ban in Alabama, and everything in between.

I feel like because I’m a mom, a lot of people automatically assume that I’m pro-life. Yes, my baby was not planned. And yes, her father and I aren’t married. And yes, there isn’t a day that goes by that I regret or second guess my decision to keep her. But no, that doesn’t mean I’m pro-life. Having an abortion wasn’t apart of my story, but I would be lying if I said that it wasn't something that I had seriously considered. And, that doesn’t mean I won’t fight with everything I have for a woman’s right to choose what she does with her body. A lot of people have a hard time understanding that pro-choice doesn't mean that I am pro-abortion. The idea of an abortion breaks my heart, and it isn't something that I think that I could do, But that doesn't mean that it’s my place to tell a woman what she can or can’t do with her body, her whole life. And it certainly doesn't mean that I won't fight with everything that I have for a woman's right to choose.

Let’s look at some facts real quick. First of all, I was appalled when I read a headline saying that New York had passed a law that had made it legal to have an abortion after 24 weeks of pregnancy. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. And then when I actually did some research, when I actually looked at the facts, I honestly supported the law. New York law regarding abortion in the last trimester is that it’s ONLY legal IF the mother’s life is in danger, if the baby would die in a painful way during birth, or if the baby will die shortly after birth due to painful physical defects. So, to break that down a little, the abortion is only legal if mother is in danger or if baby will be brought a significant amount of pain being brought into the world. You guys, that’s not murder. That’s mercy. And I know that as a mother, if I was in that position, I would spare my baby that pain if I had the chance to.

Now, let’s talk about the other end of the spectrum. Alabama. Now if you haven’t heard this already, Alabama is banning near all abortions after 6 weeks. They’re calling it the “heartbeat law”. They are only allowing abortion if the mother's life is in danger. That means no exceptions...not even for rape or incest. I’m not going to dance around my feelings about this. This is disgusting. This is absolutely horrifying. When I was a freshman in high school, I was raped in a parking lot by a stranger. I was 14 years old, I was a baby. But I could have gotten pregnant. I cannot even fathom the idea of getting pregnant by my rapist. For nine months, I would have a constant reminder of what that monster did to me. Even if I gave that baby up for adoption, every stretch mark, every permanent change in my body, would revictimize me every time I looked at myself. If a man rapes a woman, and that woman gets pregnant, the doctor who performs her abortion would get more jail time than the rapist. This law treats rape victims like they are the criminals, and if that doesn't make you sick to your stomach, then you need to reevaluate yourself.

And let's be honest, a state that ranks 50th (that's LAST PLACE) in public education doesn't give a shit about children.

Someone explained this perfectly and I want to share what they said:

“If my little sister got in a car accident, and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live...and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure, no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.

See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy”. It’s this...cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all importance and must not be infringed upon.

Like we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.

To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for nine months against their will in and incredibly expensive, invasive, and difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the vast majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren't even using anymore.

You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.

We can pull the plug on someone who is only being kept alive by machines, even though they have a BEATING HEART. Full grown people. And we can do this because they have no brain function, and neither does a six week old embryo. But it’s illegal for a woman to abort a clump of cells that is the size of a pea. A pea, that’s how big an embryo is at 6 weeks.

You guys, abortion rates are at their absolute lowest right now, which means we must be doing something right and that isn’t banning abortion. It’s because we are making birth control more available, more access to women's healthcare, and spending more time on sex education. There is no need to take away a woman's right to her body. Banning abortions will not make abortions stop. It will only stop safe and legal abortions. These laws are not "saving the lives of unborn babies", it's endangering the lives of desperate women who will have no other options.

Before I go, I just want to bring up one more thing. Imagine how many children could be helped/saved if all of the time and money and protests were spent on the hundreds of thousands of kids all around the world in foster care system, instead of wasting on the pro-life/ anti-abortion movement. Let's give them better places to live, toys, clothes, and school supplies. More money for fun activities and outings that make them feel like a normal kid. I know a lot of those things are donated, but not nearly enough and not always in good condition. Don't tell me that you're here for the children when there are 438,000 in foster care on any given day in the United States alone that you don't even give a thought or a penny to.

Stop focusing on impeding a woman's right to choose, and "saving unborn babies", when there are hundreds of thousands already born who need your help, and there are probably going to be even more if you keep forcing women to have kids they don't want/ can't take care of. If you want to continue to support the anti-abortion movement, then do it because that is you right. But I just want to remind you that there are kids here and now that need your help.

Again, I really debated on whether I wanted to share this or not. It isn't really a parenthood issue, but I don't want my daughter to grow up in a world where her rights, her body, is controlled by the government. It's time to stop treating women like criminals because they aren't emotionally, physically, or financially ready to have a baby.

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